We often discuss wanting closure on a difficult relationship in order to heal. But, what is closure and how do we get it?? In order to understand these concepts better, I will use the fictional case of “Alice.” Alice has an ex-husband, John. He would often lose his temper by yelling, name-calling and swearing at her. Alice never knew what would trigger John’s anger. She constantly walked on eggshells around him, but it made no difference in his lack of anger management.